Michael showed up when I was driving home from seeing a friend, thinking about the first Fifty Shades movie. Which then lead to thinking about an episode of “Castle” where a grad student was studying the BDSM community and became a dominatrix. Then I thought of other times I’d seen women portrayed as dominants and they’d always seemed like a caricature. I wondered what that relationship actually looked like.
Michael was sitting in my passenger seat, jeans, black t-shirt, his brown hair a little overgrown and he said “I’d be curious about that.”
I know that sounds a little crazy, but that’s how it happened. Michael showed up as a fully formed person to me and that’s all I really had for the rest of the 40-minute drive. When I got home, I started researching and found “The Mistress Manual” by Mistress Lorelei Powers.
Her book really gave a good view of the dynamic and the different roles/roleplaying, but it also discussed something I wasn’t expecting; the societal complications.
She discussed several issues doms have to overcome, such as the condemnation attached to hitting or causing pain, she explains it way better than I am. Throughout the book she talks about how men and women can struggle with the dynamic because of the societal conditioning that men should be dominant and strong and women meek and submissive.
Which got me thinking about the other ways that dynamic limits us and how confident a woman in that role would be.
The rest…became POWER PLAY.
I had so much fun with the pair, trying to see things from a different perspective and honestly, learning a bit about myself. Olivia became the woman I wished I could be, at the time, and Michael got his share of me as well, but that’s all I’ll tell you…for now.